PARENTAL ALIENATION, NARCISSISTIC AND EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT
Emotional immaturity is when a person displays poor self regulation, poor boundaries, low to no self responsibility for their actions, but angling to be the center of (immediate) attention and praise, often with a platform of both the expert and victim, they can be quite domineering, demanding and controlling with little regard for their actions upon others.
Whilst emotional immaturity isn’t always a sign of a diagnosable mental health disorder, there is a very strong association with Cluster B disorders, including narcissistic personality disorder, and emotionally abusive tendencies. Do note that it is not always the case that an emotionally immature person is either a Cluster B Personality Disorder or abusive.
Overview of Parental Alienation
The often insidious and subtle grooming of children to alienate a parent creates a long term trail of dysfunction; the unresolved grief, chaos, and chronic abuse (often enabled by society, agencies and family etc) experienced by the alienated parent is overtly cruel and abusive, and the covert abuse of alienating child to abandon and reject a parent creates a massive emotional and psychological load whose damage and ramifications may be felt for generations. Putting aside how charming, attractive, ‘righteous’, or highly regarded the Alienating parent may be, there is almost always an imbalance of mutuality and reciprocity of goodwill between the parents, with the alienating parent typically wanting to dominate and have control in how they are treated (well and on their terms) without regard for the other parent (and in reality the child/ren). Often utilizing Jung’s mantra that ‘thinking is hard so people judge’ the alienating parent often curates a very socially acceptable stories based on half, almost truths or sheer fabrications and casts doubt with the alienating child, these also fit biases to the outside world, even to therapists, judges and educators who may become part of a tight support system to validate the alienation and echo the narrative created.
Parental Alienation Continued
The child and their relationship with the alienated parent, and also their own ‘self’, is greatly harmed.
NB: We view situations where a parent is in fact, not reputation, a clear and present danger to the child/ren, and the child/ren must be insulated from such a parent, not as Parental Alienation in our definition.
We very much encourage working with Attorneys in this process when the child is a minor.
It is so frequently the case that Alienating parents seem to share commonality with those who display Narcissistic indicating traits or those elements to other toxic personalities.
Narcissistic Abuse & Toxic Relationship Management
Whether or not a child is involved, managing your own health and developing skills and ‘rewiring’ of your own ‘operating system’ going forward can be a game changer for future relationships. Whether you grew up in a chaotic, egg shell stepping, self doubting, openly abusive, or subtly emotionally neglected house, moving from one crazy relationship to another, or have experienced a one time partner that has you reeling from the confusion and self doubt, you can change your relationship to the past, those people and those patterns.
